Healing and Time for Loss and Grief

I am a widow of four years and when I lost my husband, after eleven months, some people thought since he’d been ill and not expected to recover, I should be “over it” faster. That’s not how grief and loss works. You can’t turn emotion on and off at will. Time is a big healer, and getting support from friends, loved ones and sometimes therapists is the best remedy to help anyone more through our individual grief journey. Society as a whole seems pretty uneducated as far as the grief process goes. It’s not a year, it’s not two years, it’s what is inside each of us and our capacity to heal through life’s losses.