What to Say to Someone in Grief

Sometimes people aren't sure what to say to someone who has suffered a bereavement. When you are the one who has suffered the loss of a loved one -- at times you don't know what will help to ease your pain either. Some days, there's nothing that will help. Today I found a wonderful blog posting by Terry Rush, and I found his way of speaking to those who have suffered loss to be wonderfully caring and profound. The link is below.

http://terryrush.blogspot.com/2008/04/what-to-say-to-those-who-grieve.html

Time Does Heal

I recall a many moments after I lost my husband, thinking, What am I going to do with the rest of my life? I recall that bone deep numbness, that total disinterest in life. I didn't care if I ate, didn't care that it was a beautiful sunny day outside, all I could think about was my lack of interest in life and my missing the life I'd had, my husband and our three boys. Gradually, with time, you do begin to feel again, you begin to experience joy and life. I knew I had to keep it together, if only for my boys. So be assured, in your own way and your own time, you will heal and love life again. It isn't a steady one, two three, but in small steps some days and bigger strides other days. Some days you go backward, but you just keep trying to move forward. I talked with my boys about their father, and we would laugh and reminisce about silly things that had happened in the past. That in itself became a healing process, not being afraid to talk and remember. It will all come in time.