Dates and other things to look forward to

I haven't been on a date in a while, sometimes you just kind of give up. (It's like you hit your head against a wall so many times before you realize it hurts and it's really not getting you anywhere, right). I was attracting the wrong type of guy, and it has been a problem for about a year or so, going out with "emotionally unavailable men." I love those three words and kind of think they're MY coined phrase for dating in today's society. Nice guys in their own right, but geesh, I've had a twenty year marriage, I know how a relationship works. It takes a wee bit of time and a little bit of work, but give it a chance. I actually like dating when it's with the right person. It is so much fun, just being with that special someone.

I finally gave up on the online dating sites, not for me -- I could tell you stories. Oh wait, that's my other book, "The Internet Dating Guide: The Good, Bad and Ugly, Be Smart, Stay Safe." Yes, I do have an ebook by that name. I'm revamping the website, so it's not up right now. It's actually lost out there somewhere in cyberspace since I switched servers. I have to find it and reel it back in to its proper URL.

Okay, back to the dating .....I joined a dating service where they interview you, you pay them too much money, and they match you up for six months with guys who share the same interests as you. Well, my membership ran out while I was on vacation, and when I got back the service set me up with my last date they owed me. Hmmm, I got there first, about ten minutes early. I was sitting there having an ice tea and this nice looking guy walks in with an umbrella. He kind of looks around and then walks into the other room. I was sitting there thinking too bad he's not my date, hmmm, interesting looking guy. Attractive. He comes back in and guess what, he's my date. Ohhhhh. Nice. Okay, I'm not all about looks, but hey, it don't hurt! We had a nice time chatting, about two hours which is the longest I've been on one of these meetings through this service. We actually had a lot in common, both have three kids, actually almost the same ages, grew up in the same city (even though I now live an hour south) and he sold newspapers as a kd on Sundays at the church I was in every single Sunday morning. How can it get more weird than that! :-) Ok, I'm chuckling. Trust me, there was nothing weird about this fellow. I just can't help going there and doing reality checks because I've been around some strange types. It's nice to do normal.

Now, here's the funny/strange part of the evening. I'm sitting there at our little table talking with my date, facing the bar, and this guy sits down at the bar. I kind of do a double take and realize the guy that just sat at the bar is from my area (which geographically is an hour south of this restaurant/bar). He's kind of a strange person, but I won't go into that. A woman joined him and they sat at the bar the entire time I was there. Out of the corner of my eye I saw him look at me a couple times but I kept my interest on my date. So I wondered if this person I knew from my town was also set up with the dating service at this restaurant or was it just a chance place he chose to meet someone? Hmmm.

I had a nice time and my date and I decided to meet again. That's always a hopeful sign, mutual interest -- trust me on that one. I'd been out of dating 28 years when I jumped back into it with both feet and hands flailing. It was an eye opener, not all bad, but I just assumed people told the truth about themselves. Boy, was I behind the times. LOL.